Have you ever been that student who was forced to sit alone in class because someone had a negative opinion about you. I think we all have been through that phase in life when we have been judged and forced to move or not do stuff that we wanted because of what someone said to us. There might not even be the slightest chance that what the other person is saying is true, and despite that we listen to them and become a self-critique. Anyone that has been given a rude comment will overthink it, most people don’t even show that they are offended.
Getting affected by what someone else thinks or says to you might lead to stress, low self-esteem, very little or no confidence and most of all unacceptance, of no one but yourself. Someone else’s comments might go out of their mouth and be forgotten but will never go out of your head, and will seriously affect you if you don’t change things around. I strongly believe that worrying about what people think, and say about you shouldn’t be able to cause any change in the things you think about yourself. This is because firstly, everyone has a different perspective, one person might think you look bad but on the other hand, you may receive compliments from someone else. A lot of the time, the person that gives the comments might not mean it in a bad way but might just want to help you, so here the issue will be caused by you, you will overthink it and go into the details to find out how the comment could be taken negatively.
Many people are naturally less confident than others and there may be times when they are feeling that not caring about what other people say is very had and close to impossible. Here are reasons of why I believe what I do:
None of their business:
It's your life and not theirs, you can do whatever you want with it, and it shouldn’t matter with them, so be yourself.
They don’t know what’s best:
Again, it's your life and therefore you know more about yourself than they do, so what they think is probably not true.
It will keep you from what you want:
If you keep obsessing with what one person thinks, then you will never have a chance, or see it right to do what you really want to.
The consequences are on you:
If you make a change to yourself because of one thing someone said, it will be you who is stuck with the end result, not them.
It’s ipossible to please everyone:
Everything is about perspective, so what you think is good might not be good for others, so don’t change yourself for someone else because you know what is best for you.
To conclude I would like to say, don’t change yourself because of what someone else says because all the reasons above are true.
BE YOURSELF DON’T CARE BE CONFIDENT
References:
- wikiHow. 2016. How to Not Care What People Think: 5 Steps (with Pictures). [ONLINE] Available at: http://www.wikihow.com/Not-Care-What-People-Think. [Accessed 15 May 2016].
- Lifehack. 2016. 10 Clear Reasons Why You Shouldn't Care What Others Think. [ONLINE] Available at:http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/10-clear-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-care-what-others-think.html. [Accessed 15 May 2016].
